Lingam Massage – A Couples Guide

Delving into ancient Tantric traditions, Lingam massage venerates masculine energy, weaving together tactile sensations and profound emotional bonds. This guide outlines how to curate this intimate moment for your partner, offering actionable steps to explore this sensual adventure together. 

We’ve included videos from reputable figures in sexual education and wellness to illustrate the techniques discussed, as well as custom infographics to help make this piece easily accessible to any reader. 

A Message From The Author

I’ve loved creating this Lingam Massage guide and its companion piece, ‘How To Give The Ultimate Yoni Massage’. The techniques and wisdom within can pave the way for couples to journey into more profound depths of intimacy, breaking boundaries and reaching new heights of sensuality. 

I hope that through Lingam massage, readers can unlock its transformative potential. Let this be your companion in pursuing enhanced pleasure, understanding, and a deeper bond in your relationship. 

With love, 

Maya xxx 

What Is The Lingam and What Does It Represent?

In massage terms, the “Lingam” is the penis, but the word, which is a Sanskrit term, translates to ‘sign’ or ‘distinguished symbol’ and symbolises the divine embodiment of procreative energy. Hindus consider the Lingham and the Yoni to symbolise the union of male and female principles. Why is the Lingam revered, and what makes its massage so unique?

  • An Emblem of Masculinity – Beyond its anatomical reference, the Lingam symbolises divine masculinity, a powerful energy inherent in every man.
  • A Union of Spiritual and Physical – Lingam massage isn’t mere physical stimulation. It’s a ritual that respects and celebrates a man in his entirety.

Environment Is Everything 

The ambience of the room significantly enhances the magic of Lingam massage. Follow these simple steps to create the perfect environment before you get started. 

  • Mood Lighting – Think muted lights, perhaps candles emanating their gentle glow. Let calming tunes play as the sweet scent of essential oils fills the room.
  • Prioritise Comfort – Allow your partner to lay on their back on a soft surface. A cushion under the knees can both elevate comfort and provide ideal positioning.
  • Oil Selection – Almond oil is popular with its light texture and subtle aroma. It warms naturally when applied, intensifying sensations.

Breathwork: A Cornerstone Of All Sensual Massage

Like the Bliss Breath technique highlighted for our Yoni massage blog, Lingam massage leverages controlled breathing and visualisation. This convergence of breath and touch can lead to intense sensations, paving the way for a union of mind, body, and soul.

Here is a simple guide to practising Bliss Breath (Bhairavi Kriya) in 5 Steps:

1. Prepare Your Space – Sit in a quiet environment with a straight spine. Close your eyes and take a few moments to centre yourself.

2. Connect to Tradition – Reflect briefly on the practice’s origins, appreciating its lineage, from Bhairavi Brahmani to Sri Ramakrishna.

3. Harness & Direct Energy – Visualise your sexual energy at the base of your spine. Inhale deeply, guiding this energy upward towards the crown of your head using the Kuhu nadi system.

4. Awaken & Circulate – As you breathe, visualise the energy moving through the Sushumna chitrini nadi, circulating the essence throughout your body, especially focusing on the higher chakras.

5. Conclude with Reflection – After about 8 minutes, gradually return your awareness to the room. Reflect on the heightened consciousness achieved and the transition from a karmic to a dharmic life.

Incorporate this practice twice daily, and for deeper understanding, seek guidance from a qualified teacher to ensure a genuine connection to its roots.

The Prelude to Lingam Massage – The Best Foreplay Deserves Some Foreplay! 

Stoke the fires of anticipation. Start by massaging the surrounding areas, letting the excitement crescendo.

  • Start at the Thighs – This nerve-rich zone can set the stage. Gentle strokes here can set the pulse racing.
  • The Abdomen Deserves Attention – Soft circular movements around the navel can soothe and stimulate.

5 Essential Lingam Massage Techniques

1. Circling

  • Mix It Up: Vary between small and large circles, gentle and more assertive touches.
  • Key Zones: The head of the Lingam is sensitive; explore its every contour.


2. Stroking

  • Find the Rhythm: Glide from base to tip, adjusting your grip and rhythm to find what resonates most.


3. Tugging

  • Gentle Pulls: Grasping the Lingam, tugging it gently to create a myriad of sensations.


4. Varying Pressures

  • Experiment: Soft squeezes followed by firmer ones can unlock a spectrum of feelings.


5. Perineum Attention

  • The Spot: The space between the scrotum and anus is a treasure trove of sensitivity.
  • Technique: Combining the above techniques with gentle pressing or circular motions in the perineum can give intense pleasure. 

Lingam Massage + Edging: Dancing on the Brink

Edging in Lingam massage is the art of approaching climax only to retreat, building intensity. Gauge your partner’s reactions, and let them revel in the waves of ecstasy. For an in-depth guide to Edging, see our ‘What is Edging’ blog. 

Final Reflections on Lingam Massage

The Lingam Massage, an age-old Tantric ritual, transcends the barriers of mere physical pleasure. It’s a holistic experience that celebrates the sacredness of masculinity, interweaving emotional intimacy with raw sensuality. By honouring the Lingam as an anatomical entity and as a symbol of divine masculine energy, this massage elevates the experience from the mundane to the profound.

The meticulous environment setup, careful selection of oils, and the implementation of ancient breathwork techniques ensure that the massage isn’t just skin deep. The gentle strokes, pressures, and attentive techniques all cater to the sanctity of the Lingam, leading to not just sexual satisfaction but also emotional and spiritual elevation.

However, it’s crucial to remember that the magic of Lingam Massage lies as much in its techniques as in its intent. The emotional bond and trust between partners are vital in unlocking its transformative potential. It’s a journey of mutual exploration, respect, and intimacy. Whether it’s the soft strokes on the thighs, the rhythmic dances around the Lingam, or the thrill of edging, every step celebrates the divine masculine.

In closing, whether you’re a novice or an expert, revisit the essence and spirit of the Lingam massage regularly. It’s an evolving journey of discovery and connection. Embrace it with an open heart and let the waves of intimacy, pleasure, and spiritual connection envelop you and your partner.

Dive deep, engage, and let the Lingam massage work its transformative magic.


Brittanica – Lingham 

REVELATION OF THE DIAMOND OF TANTRA; BLISS BREATH – Swami Ayyappa Giri, Tantracharya, Yogini Ashram, Norwalk Ca.